“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil” (Pro. 31:11).
The man who is married to an extraordinary woman has total trust in his wife. Therefore, he is confident, bold, and secure. He never worries himself about her behaving badly. She has proven herself over and over. He never frets about her foibles. Not only is he free from concern over potential shortcomings, but he also prospers because he is able to focus on his business. The verse says, “He does not lack gain.” Why? Because she is trustworthy, disciplined, thrifty, and productive. As a result, her husband is able to excel financially and materially. This dynamic duo is able to direct their physical, mental, and emotional resources toward fruitful endeavors. The extraordinary wife creates a climate that promotes industry and achievement. She plays a significant role in his (or her own) enterprise.
All of us have limited time, energy, assets, and capacity. Your husband is faced with myriad responsibilities. He is a prophet to guard his home. A priest to guide his home. And a patriarch to govern his home. Men have obligations to provide, protect, and shepherd their families. With all these duties, a godly wife is a tremendous advantage.
Eve came from Adam’s rib to stand by Adam’s side. Woman was taken out of man to be a completer. Dwelling alone was not good for the first man, so God brought a bride to Adam. She was a gift to him. Together they founded the human family. They lived together, worked together, and were charged to be fruitful and multiply. It was by God’s design that the first couple dominated and subdued the earth.
Here’s the good news: you can be an extraordinary wife! God never consults your past to determine your future. Just because you may have messed up in the past does not mean you have to stay messed up! Our God is a recovery specialist. Imperfections, whether real or imagined, are minor impediments when compared to the power placed inside you. Self-focus is a deadly foe. Self-pity paralyzes progress. No one gets through life without scars. Our scars remind us of where we have been, but they should never be allowed to determine our destination. God calls women to rise up and grow beyond the pain of the past. His plan is to bring you to a place of spiritual, emotional, and mental maturity. Mercy can transform mistakes from the past into wisdom for the future.
You must allow your suffering to be your path into stability. “But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you” (1 Pet. 5:10). The purpose of suffering is to stabilize, strengthen, and settle your soul. Trouble and difficulty are not pleasant, but the benefits you derive from them are invaluable. Your mind has to dominate your emotions—not the other way around. You must choose your thoughts and dwell upon right things. The things you think about will affect the way you feel. Someone once said, “Peace rules the day when Christ rules the mind.” Change your mind and change your life. Daily renewal in the secret place is the key to maintaining proper perspective.
By studying scriptural overcomers you will discover the principles that will aid you in your progress. Eve overcame the loss of Cain, and the Lord gave her Seth. Job and his wife lost their herds, home, and health, but they were doubly blessed afterwards. Ruth overcame the loss of her husband. In time, she met Boaz. People in the Scriptures overcame all kinds of problems, pain, and loss. Allow these godly ones to inspire and instruct you in your pursuit. Every child of God is a work in progress. A grateful outlook can replace a mentality of defeat with a stance of faith.
An extraordinary wife is a gift to any husband. My wife exemplifies this verse: “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.” I am blessed to be married to an extraordinary wife!
Action Points:
- Look for ways that you can promote industry and achievement in your home.
- Evaluate your life and make sure you are not letting your scars determine your destination.
- Open your Bible and read the many stories of scriptural overcomers.
This chapter was written by Debbie Vaughan, wife of Harold Vaughan.
This chapter is taken from “The Extraordinary Wife”. CLICK HERE to order a copy of the book.
